If you could see yourself through my eyes, you’d smile more. You’d have a bounce in your step, you’d laugh at the little things that went wrong in your day. You’d be kinder to yourself, you’d try new things, you wouldn’t be afraid to make mistakes or risk looking foolish.
Half of the things people said to you when you were a child were a lie. You are not stupid, or clumsy, lazy or bad. You were being manipulated into obedience, because most adults can only handle kids when they are quiet. Adults like low-maintenance. You can’t blame them; they were stressed, these well-intentioned parents, teachers, pastors, neighbours. They just wanted a peaceful life.
But the truth is; you were magnificent, you were filled with a sense of adventure and hope, you had dreams and planned big. You expected to master the world. You were smart, funny, sensitive, energetic, beautiful and wise. You still are.
You may be reading this shaking your head. Perhaps you think that I can’t possibly know you. Perhaps you feel that you’ve got something to be ashamed of, guilty for, afraid of, enraged about, but no one – NO ONE – here has lived a life without mistakes and regrets.
By my calculations, 95 % of people are basically good. Sure, there are people cheating on their partners, taxes, bosses and friends. People who need to have a good long look at where their life is going. But dishonest behaviour stems from a terrible fear of inadequacy, a fear that needs won’t be met without theft. Which of course, comes from the lies of childhood.
The truth is, you are as magnificent today as when you were six years old. I can see it. I bet those who love you can see it. And if you feel like no one loves you, then start loving yourself.
No matter what you think you’ve done wrong, you are still beautiful, still worthy of love and good things.
It’s time to see how precious you are.
Click HERE if you still need convincing. [Thanks Brownpaperbaggirl for reminding me of this today.]