Why can’t you see how precious you are?

If you could see yourself through my eyes, you’d smile more. You’d have a bounce in your step, you’d laugh at the little things that went wrong in your day. You’d be kinder to yourself, you’d try new things, you wouldn’t be afraid to make mistakes or risk looking foolish.

Half of the things people said to you when you were a child were a lie. You are not stupid, or clumsy, lazy or bad. You were being manipulated into obedience, because most adults can only handle kids when they are quiet. Adults like low-maintenance.  You can’t blame them; they were stressed, these well-intentioned parents, teachers, pastors, neighbours.  They just wanted a peaceful life.

Sadness

But the truth is; you were magnificent, you were filled with a sense of adventure and hope, you had dreams and planned big. You expected to master the world.  You were smart, funny, sensitive, energetic, beautiful and wise.  You still are.

You may be reading this shaking your head. Perhaps you think that I can’t possibly know you.  Perhaps you feel that you’ve got something to be ashamed of, guilty for, afraid of, enraged about, but  no one – NO ONE – here has lived a life without mistakes  and regrets.

By my calculations, 95 % of people are basically good. Sure, there are people cheating on their partners, taxes, bosses and friends.  People who need to have a good long look at where their life is going.  But dishonest behaviour stems from a terrible fear of inadequacy, a fear that needs won’t be met without theft.  Which of course, comes from the lies of childhood.

The truth is, you are as magnificent today as when you were six years old.  I can see it. I bet those who love you can see it. And if you feel like no one loves you, then start loving yourself.

No matter what you think you’ve done wrong, you are still beautiful, still worthy of love and good things.

Students

It’s time to see how precious you are.

Click HERE if you still need convincing. [Thanks Brownpaperbaggirl for reminding me of this today.]

x Lisa

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11 responses to “Why can’t you see how precious you are?

  1. This is very reassuring. We have gotten into the habit of counting what is wrong with us, what we don’t have and what we are not. When in fact, who we are is enough and good. 😀

  2. Great thoughts. 🙂 I think children should be told this more often. Then the world wouldn’t have so much hatred and fear and anxiety in it.

  3. Thank you for the beautiful post, and making me feel special. 🙂

    “…You’d have a bounce in your step, you’d laugh at the little things that went wrong in your day. You’d be kinder to yourself, you’d try new things, you wouldn’t be afraid to make mistakes or risk looking foolish.”

    Isn’t that true! Life is about making big mistakes, that’s all you can ever do, but we’re made to believe those mistakes makes us bad or inadequate people. But that’s not true.

    I echo what 83October said, and its good that your reminding us that we are not some sort of androids, we’re human. Yes, we make mistakes, but we are perfect even with those mistakes. How else can we come into our own without some shortfalls and the things we end up learning from these shortfalls?

    I wonder if the question is: can a human being do wrong if they are trying their best to do right? I don’t think so.

    • Ollin, what a beautiful response. you’ve really got me thinking here. “Can a human being do wrong if they are trying their best to do right?”. That’s a whole new post in itself. Care to have a go??
      I guess that if we do our best, with love in our hearts, then the outcome is usually perfect in some way, perhaps things still seem to go wrong, hearts and sometimes bodies can get hurt, but in hindsight one can see that it was for the best.
      Thank you for shining new light into this area.
      And you are special!!!!

  4. Oh, Lisa, this post is beautiful. You are beautiful. It makes me so happy that you connected to that lovely quote, too.

    Thank you.

  5. P.S. I’ve added you to my blogroll, just to let you know!

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