Nobody Home

Recently, I’ve been discussing the habit we (most of us) have of abandoning ourselves. In Pilates class I encourage people to bring their focus back to the body. Usually, I talk about muscles, bones, movement and breath. But lately, I’ve been wanting to go deeper, to increase awareness of the energy that animates us. The subtle force that directs our thoughts, emotions and actions. It can’t be seen on an X-Ray, but it is as important as the skeleton that holds us upright. Let’s call it energy.

In our busy lives, our energy often leaves our bodies and flows to whatever we’re thinking about: dinner, bills, work, the economy, the Tony Abbott rants on our Facebook feed. We give our energy away to so many unworthy causes. And while we’re thinking about the many things that anger us, depress us, stress us out, our shoulders are tensing, our stomachs are knotting, our cortisol levels rise. We overeat or drink too much, we accidentally hurt ourselves, forget appointments, don’t really listen when someone we love is talking to us. That’s because we’re an empty shell. No one is home.

You deserve your own energy, love and attention. Listen to your own inner voice rather than the 6 O’clock News. Trust yourself rather than the latest from Social Media. Even if it’s just for today, be there for you. Take a breath in. Take a slow breath out. Forget about the world around you for a moment. And feel the energy in your own body. Come home to yourself. You need you more than anyone else does.

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Full of it.

I haven’t blogged for ages. For some reason, I thought I had to blog about writing, although I haven’t always blogged about writing. I’ve blogged about the colour pink, and the difference between apples and pomegranates.

But there are people out there in the blog-o-sphere who know a hell of a lot more about the craft of writing than I do, and so I think I should let them educate/stimulate readers and I can concentrate on something else.

Life. That’s what I’m an expert on. I’ve experienced it every day. Without exception. I’m full of it and it follows me around like I’m some kind of guru. Everywhere I go, there it is. Provoking me, confusing me, loving me, or irritating the bleep out of me.

Life. Life. Life.

You’re an expert too. You are a life-liver. Reluctantly or with enthusiasm. It keeps happening to both of us. All of us.

That’s what I’d like to blog about.

[imagine exciting, thought-provoking life-inspiring pic here. I plan to get one….]

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This one’s for Arthorious

Fellow bloggers and bad poets, I must admit, I’ve missed you. The last post was spectacularly short thanks to the world’s slowest internet connection and a very old computer. And then there’s the new novel turning my hair grey, but a dear internet friend gave me some encouragement today and suggested I get back on here.

I made him a deal. You blog. And I will blog.

So, here’s my offering – short and sweet.

My New Year’s resolution is to start blogging again.

Love and blessings to you all, lovely people.

xxx

Lisa

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Ah, spring, how I love thee.

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Is it wrong to blame the horse?

I haven’t got as much writing done as I wanted to lately. Despite being prepared. A schedule was pinned up above my computer with an easy to understand time line for my editing, I had ample coffee, snacks, even organised the odd sleepover for my son, but then the horse arrived.

The horse is cute. A paint mare, who my neighbour suspects is pregnant – aw, even cuter. Her name is Lady Ga Ga. She is doing a champion job of mowing my lawn, and I’m filled to the brim with gratitude that I don’t have to be out there in the forty degrees heat cutting it myself.

In theory, this horse should be low maintenance. But I can’t help feel that she’d like an apple [she came inside the house on the weekend and took one herself], or to have her mane plaited. And I have to check that she has enough water, hay, love, pats.

Anyway, that’s my excuse. Not enough writing. Too much horse adoration.

But there’s always an excuse for not writing, isn’t there?

What’s yours today?

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Mind expanding stuff

Okay, so I probably need someone to explain this in idiot terms, but the whole holographic universe is so incredibly exciting to me.

I adore potential and possibilities and adventure too, so this discovery is better than Christmas.

Have a look and see how you could reinvent your life:

http://twm.co.nz/hologram.html

 

 

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Does anyone know what we’re doing here?

Because I have no idea.

Not that it’s a bad thing.

Just strange.

When you think about it.

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Thank you – I have enough now

Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas. I love the lights, the decorated trees, the food, the giving and sharing, the sparkly cards. I’ll be out there Christmas Eve, in the back garden marking out the landing strip for the reindeer. Water and carrots for those hard working little darlings. Glass of milk and a piece of cake for Santa.I’ll spend hours in the shops trying to find nice presents for those I love.

But as I look around my house, and in my wardrobes full of shoes and dresses, at all the books, and appliances, and…well, stuff. I know that I have enough now, maybe not as much as my neighbour, or best friend, or the lady in line next to me at the supermarket. But I certainly have enough for me.

I’m grateful. I know I’m blessed.

And now that I have enough I realise that it’s time to give.

Give to those close to home and those far away.

Because there is a special joy in giving that receiving can’t touch.

The Joy of Giving

What simple things at Christmas time bring you the most joy?

For me, it’s that quiet part of Christmas Eve, after the church service, back home, with my son sleeping soundly, the gifts wrapped and under the tree, the dog curled up on her bed. A deep peace fills me then.

I wish everyone love in abundance. And I pray that, one day soon, every person on this precious planet will have enough.

Peace.

 

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Aspiring authors; make a pact.

I was visiting Ollin’s site, Courage to Create this morning, and remembered an important part of my journey towards publication. It happened a long time ago, took seconds, but I suspect it was a pivotal moment.

I’d joined a writing group. I think there were about ten of us; all keen and excited to be working on our manuscripts, looking for useful advice and hopefully some positive feedback and encouragement.

Slowly, the numbers dwindled.  Some left after a rejection from a publisher. Or because life can get hectic and writing can start to look like a self-indulgent hobby. For all kinds of reasons.

In the end, it was just me, and Stephen.  We were both passionate about writing, absolutely determined in our desire to improve our work and stubbornly fixed in our quest to find a publisher.  Over a glass of red wine one night we shook hands and made a pact.

To never quit. Not ever.

Not when the rejection letter came in. Not when we couldn’t see a way to write the ending or improve one of the sagging chapters in the middle.  Not when we read a brilliant book and feared we’d never be good enough to scrape the mud from this author’s boots.

We sent each other interesting articles on writing. {Thank you Ste for the McKee book} We commiserated when we got rejected. And celebrated the wins. We gave each other stern talkings-to if one of us wavered and wanted to quit.

And we did it.

The books we were originally working on when we met were put aside and we started new ones. We were working at different speeds, trying different approaches, contacting different publishers, writing different genres, but somehow, in a weird twist of fate, we somehow managed to have our novels come out in exactly the same month: June this year.

So, here’s my question, writing friends; who can you make a pact with? If no one comes to mind, then perhaps it’s time to reach out and find some like-minded literary types to connect with.

Then, once you have your buddy ready….

… just hold out your hand [virtually is fine too] and shake hands, and make the same pact Stephen and I did all those years ago.

To never quit. Not ever.

I wish you all success and joy along the way.

xxx

Lisa

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Action!

Ollin Morales is a writer and a blogger. {Courage 2 Create} chronicles the author’s journey as he writes his first novel. This blog offers writing tips as well as strategies to deal with life’s toughest challenges. After all, as Ollin’s story unfolds, it becomes more and more clear to him that in order to write a great novel, he must first learn how to live a great life.

 

Action!

by Ollin Morales

Recently, I was caught up in worrying about life again. It frustrated me because I thought I had conquered all the worries I had about my book, about my writing career, about my future, but no, these worries kept coming back.

I’ve heard it said that in order to stop worrying you just have to stop the habit of worrying. As if The Worrying was some sort of bad cigarette addiction, a habit that comes from outside of you, that was introduced to you at a young age, and not an innate part of your biological structure. “You worried? Oh, no problem, just smack No-Worry Patch across your shoulder, stick a slip of No-Worry gum on your tongue, and little by little, that bad case of worrying you picked up long ago, will gradually slip away.”

Well, doesn’t that sound nice?

But unfortunately, our worries, just like our nagging fears and doubts, are a part of us. We can’t get rid of them, and our energy is only wasted trying to shut them out.

Trust me. I’ve tried that. It doesn’t work.

The worries remain, no matter how hard you try to kick them out, and they can easily snowball and get in the way of your writing.

What is there to do then? To whom do you to turn to? Where do you go? How do you get there? What time is it showing? What theater is it in? And did they really bring Dobby back for this last Harry Potter? Why would they do that? He’s so annoying.

Anyways.

I used to think my worries were useless. That they were just there to cause me more anxiety and pain. But now I realize that the reason I saw worry in that way was because I hadn’t learned how to deal with worry in a productive manner.

I didn’t understand that a “worry” is just a signal. It’s your mind saying: “Hey, you should do something about this.” You respond to The Worry by saying: “But I can’t do anything about it right now, leave me alone!” Then The Worry returns with: “Hey, you should do something about this.” You retort: “I told you already. I can’t do anything.” The Worry shoots back, as if he didn’t hear you: “Hey, you should do something about this.” You shout back in rage: “I ALREADY TOLD YOU! DIDN’T YOU JUST HEAR ME? I CAN’T DO ANYTHING! IT’S HOPELESS! LEAVE ME THE FRACK ALONE!”

Then, there is a long silence.

You let out a sigh and think you’ve beaten The Worry. But then you hear–

“Hey, you should do something about this.”

AAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!

It’s annoying, right?

But what if, instead of ignoring that worry. You listen to it. So this time, let’s take a listen to what The Worry is saying. It’s a pretty simple message actually:

“Hey, you should do something about this.”

Did you finally get the message this time? Like I did?

The Worry isn’t saying what you think it is saying. For instance, it isn’t saying: “Hey, freak out about this!” or “Hey, get really scared and anxious about this!”

No, all that The Worry is saying is that you should “do something” about this. It’s not specific about what, nor does it demand that the action be big or small, it is just requesting that you do something.

A Worry, as you now see, is not a call for you to become paralyzed with fear, it is instead, a call to action. A Worry is your mind telling you that you need to do something about a situation so you that you can feel at ease about your future.

Today, I recommend listening to your worries, instead of trying to shut them out. First, find out what specific situation The Worry is most concerned about. Then, write down a small, easy, and immediate action you can take in the next week or so to address every, single worry. When you do this, I promise you will feel much better afterward. Why? Because instead of ignoring or shouting at The Worry’s request, you are thoughtfully listening to The Worry and giving it a practical answer.

The Worry: “Hey, you should do something about this.”

You: “Okay. Got it. Thank you. I’ll take care of that right now.”

You might be wondering: “Ollin, what about the worries that seem COMPLETELY out of your control?” Well, my go-to actions in those situations are either:

1. Write about it, or

2. Try to spread more love and goodness in the world.

No, it’s not like you’ll cure cancer by doing this, but hey, it’s something. And that’s all your worry is asking you to do:something. You may never get rid of your old pal, Worry, but now that you know how to deal with him, he won’t bother you so much anymore.

Why?

Because you’ll be way too busy taking care of yourself.

much love,

Ollin

How do you deal with Worry? How do you address those BIG worries that seem to be way out of your control? I’m sure we’d all love to learn from your wisdom.

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